I have noticed lately that much of society has a “throw it out” mentality. People tend to want the latest, greatest, fancy thing around. We aren’t often content to appreciate what we have, or fix it if it’s damaged, we toss it and replace it. It’s rather sad to me, and quite wasteful. This isn’t exclusive of items, it happens with people as well.
Way back when, in what some may call “the old days”, I don’t think we were such a disposable society. Take marriage for instance. Lately, it seems that people rush into marriage, then, for what seems to be the slightest reason, they get a divorce. whatever happened to “for better or worse”? I know, I know, there are reasons why divorce is probably for the best, it just seems a bit too easy these days. I don’t claim to know what goes on in their household, but how do you go from professing your undying love one day, and within a year or two, you are divorced? Maybe they didn’t think through all that is involved in a marriage before they jumped in. You know, it’s so much more than that fancy wedding and ultimate honeymoon trip.
When I was a teenager, I happened to walk into the kitchen and my dad was giving my mom a kiss and hug. As any teen might, I made some wisecrack about them smooching in the kitchen. My father then said ” if you are fortunate enough to find someone, someday, who loves you half as much as I love your mother, you will be very blessed” With that he gave her another kiss and went on about his day.
Over the years, I have watched my parents do those small niceties toward each other, that keep them happily married. Little notes taped to the kitchen cabinet,or a true appreciation for even the simplest meal. I know that my parents have had challenges over the years, but I also know they didn’t think anything other than working it out was the answer.
After 60 years, they still get caught smooching in the kitchen.
I have found someone, and I know he loves me. Is it 1/2 as much and my father loves my mother? I hope so. What I also know is that after nearly 21 years, with all the good and bad, we have worked through it. And now and then I get a smooch in the kitchen to prove it.