I had a nice visit with a friend recently, something we don’t always get to do. When I called her, it had been quite some time since we had visited, but we have been friends for so long that it was as if it were only a few days since we had last talked. On the day we met for lunch, she commented to me, ” when you called and said pick a day next week for lunch, I was confused and thought I missed something we had planned. But no, it’s just us. We don’t see each other for a long time, and then when we do it’s like no time has passed!” I love that about our friendship.
Our lunch was great. We had a long conversation about a multitude of topics. We laughed and reminisced and caught up. We have been friends so long our conversations are easy, and it’s always nice to be able to talk to someone who knows your past .
As I was driving home, my thoughts went to our conversation, and more importantly, to the words left unsaid. I wouldn’t say she shared secrets, it was more of a sharing of deeper thoughts. Maybe you have had conversations like that. You are chatting away and realize the person has just shared some personal information without actually spelling it out. A little bit of, read between the lines.
Friendships and relationships can be funny like that. You think you know someone and they share something with you that makes you see them in a new light. I think it is also a measure of comfort between friends.
I don’t believe anyone truly knows everything about another person. Family members experience one facet of you, coworkers another. Friends and acquaintances know another side. There is always a little piece missing with each relationship.
Every day life brings us another challenge, and challenges don’t always have to be struggles. Letting people into our life, sharing in the secrets we may have, can certainly help us all become better people. A fresh perspective, an understanding that we are not alone in our thinking, all play a part in our lives. It may be a little scary to open up and let someone learn a side of you they don’t normally see, but doing so can be just the affirmation we might need at the time.